Why Not?

Have you ever noticed how often people ask ‘Why’ questions?

‘Why’ questions are usually asked under the guise of research, or information gathering, but I think often times there is some sort of underlying judgment being made by the questioner. They may be asking ‘Why did you do that’ but what they are really saying is ‘I wouldn’t have done it that way’.

If you want to encourage people to grow and help them succeed, instead of asking ‘Why’ start asking Why not?…Why can’t we?…What if we try it this way?

You would be amazed at what you can accomplish if you are willing to question the status quo. Sometimes you might struggle or fail, we certainly have (and I’m sure we will again), but don’t be afraid to try.

In our journey with Connor we were forced to break a lot of new ground and sometimes we felt like working with the medical, governmental, and social service communities to get the support we needed to take care of our son ourselves, at home, in as natural a setting as possible, was like trying to roll a large rock up a steep hill. How different it would have been if instead of asking ‘Why’ more of the professionals we worked with said ‘Why Not’…’You can do it’…’What if we tried it this way’… ‘What can we do to help you’.

Those are the questions we will ask at Connor’s House.